“Eros is the binding element par excellence. It is the bridge between being and becoming, and it binds fact and value together.” Love & Will, Rollo May
“…If Eros can be revived at all, it has to be through the claim that Eros is a fully articulated way of knowing the world, the ignorance of which has been intellectually crippling…” The Reenchantment of the World, Morris Berman
If you resonate with the tone of these statements you are likely a seeker into the mystery of deeper states of self-awareness and higher states of consciousness through touch and embodiment.
I am a seasoned coach and bodywork practitioner available as a guide to go beyond the door of everyday experience into the realm of body-mind-spirit integration. I offer my services to those who are interested in re-introducing the intelligence of Eros to their lives.
What is Eros Coaching?
Eros coaching is a deep version of Life coaching: helping you with themes and issues in your life, clarifying underlying causes for goals not met, illuminating challenges that keep you from being deeply satisfied. Yet, having Eros explicit in the mix is a clear distinguishing factor from traditional forms of life coaching.
What is so significant about Eros?
Eros is routinely overlooked in Western daily life, yet it is the missing link, the underpinning of all Life, that whichcreates action. It is the essence of awareness that will bring you back into your body, where you can again fully experience life in all its richness and variety. It does not look away from this primal energy.
Eros is an ancient Greek word, older than written language. There were three god-like entities or forces for early Western humans: Chaos (the source of all), Gaia (the physical) and Eros (the energetic connection between the two). Eros was the god of desire, of action, the creative force that linked Chaos and Gaia, the essential vigor that energizes life. Eros takes you from simply being to becoming … from being alive to becoming awake, in consciousness and in life.
Closely aligned with elements of Tantra – from another ancient word, Tan, meaning to stretch, to weave, to expand – Eros is the motion in emotion, the very essence of being alive. So, if it’s essential, how can it be overlooked so readily in Western life?
When we began to separate mind and body with I Think, Therefore I Am, we minimized the very essence of what brings us alive: desire followed by action. Bringing proper attention back to this crucial life force is of utmost importance. Once we become aware of its power, Eros will once again gently guide our lives’ daily actions, choices and outcomes.
I thought Eros was about sexuality.
That is one strong aspect of Eros. Common modern usage has constrained Eros to sexuality, desire, lust, or anything forbidden or titillating. Eros has a much broader definition in reality, one that is central to life itself. In the physical realm, every desire is followed by action.
- I desire a drink of water and then I reach for a glass of water.
Once you become aware of that broader definition of desire = action, you can put it to positive use in your everyday life. You can be reminded of how to listen to your Body First and readily glean its primal intelligent knowledge.
Body First – What does that mean in coaching?
This type of coaching begins with what your body desires:
- How daily behavior may mask what you really want/desire
- How your body gives you messages that you can hear
- How you can then act on that knowledge
We will always start with the Body First, with what you feel in your body. This coaching calls attention to the location of a certain desire or emotion. Where in your body do you feel this? What does it feel like? How does that affect your thinking mind? How can you use it to help achieve your desires?
Will Eros coaching help me be a better lover?
Without Eros, there is no passion, there is no art. The fire of Eros drives you to move, to create, to desire, to fulfill desires. There is an element of exhilaration in that fire! And worth noting: all issues deal with sexual energy – allissues, including those you think are not related to sexuality at all.
Eros coaching can help you better manage your desires, your energy, your passion, and your actions driven by desires and goals, in whatever realm you experience them.
As awareness grows, as you become more grounded and embodied, you will be able to deal more successfully with life issues as they happen. You will
- re-member your Body and its desires
- re-connect to your primal energy
- re-awaken the connection between desire and action
